How to Talk So Kids Will Listen Learn to listen. Kids need to feel heard and understood. When you listen to them, they're more likely to listen to you. Speak respectfully. Even when you're angry or frustrated, try to speak to your kids in a respectful way. This will help them learn how to communicate respectfully with others. Be clear and concise. Kids have short attention spans, so make sure your messages are clear and concise. Avoid using jargon or technical terms that they won't understand. Use "I" statements. When you're expressing your feelings, use "I" statements instead of "you" statements. This will help your kids feel less defensive and more likely to listen to what you have to say. Be consistent. Kids need to know what to expect from you. When you're consistent with your rules and expectations, they're more likely to follow them. Be patient. It takes time to learn how to communicate effectively with kids. Don't get discouraged if you don't see results immediately. Just keep practicing and you'll eventually see a difference.